How many times do you come across a guy that asks the question “Why are you still single?” What they are really asking is “Are you a crazy person?”. Sigh. The genuine answer I give is ‘because I choose to be’. I don’t want to give my precious time to the wrong person.
The power that past relationships have on your future relationships is incredibly strong. It teaches you what you want and what you definitely do not want. Let me tell you all, you shouldn’t settle.
There are a few reasons why I choose to be single. Maybe you can relate…
Often when I start developing feelings for someone, that independency that I love slowly begins to disappear.
I hate that I constantly wonder what they’re up to. Instead of going out and making my own plans, I’ll wait for their response and put a pause on what I really want to do. I start second guessing everything they’ve said and a feeling of insecurity begins to rise up inside of me.
I cannot stand feeling upset. For some reason in my past relationships, I’ve found myself upset more times than I was happy. I’d much prefer to be free and content on my own than waiting and expecting to be hurt again.
Now don’t get me wrong, I know that all sounds very dramatic, but there are valid reasons as to why I’m choosing to be single until the right person comes into my life:
1 – I can focus on my friendships – My friends mean the world to me, they bring me laughter and happiness. When I’m single I have so much time to invest into these amazing, solid friendships.
2 – I say goodbye to relationship drama – No jealously, no arguments. I can eat what I want, go to the gym when I want, surf when I want and essentially just DO WHAT EVER I WANT! There are no sacrifices.
3 – It’s all about me – Do you have goals in your life? Whether your goal is three months away or two years away, this is your time to achieve them.
- You want to do the Base Camp of Everest? Go and do it.
- You want to complete a triathlon? Go and do it.
- You want to travel the world? Go and do it.
- You want to focus on growing you career? Guess what, you can go and do it!
4 – I get to learn about who I am – This is probably the most important point. How can you be in a relationship when you don’t even know who you are, or what you want? You need to know who the best version of you is and what makes you truly happy. You can’t blame someone else for your unhappiness, you control this. If something makes you unhappy, change it or change your perception of it.
In the end
I’m not saying I want to be single forever, but right now I am happy by myself and people around me can see that.
My advice to all you amazing single people out there is to learn to be happy on your own. Go for walks, listen to podcasts, get into fitness, set goals to challenge yourself, try something new every week and JUST BE YOU. Don’t change or pretend to be someone else just to classify yourself as “in a relationship”. This will be the reason you break up.
Now go and be happy, be single and love your life. xoxo