Your date was amazing, you laughed, you drank, you ate, you “connected”.
You’ve been texting back and forth for weeks; the banter is on point and he’s clearly mastered the whole ‘good morning’ and ‘good night’ texting requirements.
You feel hopeful, cheerful even. There’s a spring in your step. You’ve met a cool guy and he’s totally into you! It’s all chugging along grandly and then…… silence. Radio Silence.
You’re totally being ‘ghosted’.
‘Ghosting’, in its aggressive modern form, began in the year 2012. Tinder also launched in 2012. A coincidence? We think not.
For those of you who have been ghosted, so have we. We’re sorry and we’re here for you. For those of you who haven’t, lucky bloody you. We assume you need some further clarification on wtf we are talking about as this is definitely not an article on hauntings.
We direct you to the most accurate source for all things way too cool to be listed in an actual dictionary. Here’s Urban Dictionary’s definition:
How do you know you’ve been ghosted?
It’s pretty simple. He’s not responding. After further research using your finely honed detective skills, you notice he’s unmatched you, unfollowed you & unfriended you. Translation? He’s uninterested.
You’ve been ghosted, what’s next?
Different people have different reactions when it comes to ghosting. Our personal favourite is to call out the ghoster, but then again we’re pretty hard core. There are a number of potential responses you may be tempted by. We’re not here to judge. We reckon all of these are reasonable.
Move on. He had bad breath anyway. Let’s get real. You’re a 10 and he’s barely scraping through as a 4. You weren’t that into him, but you would have liked the opportunity to end it first (whatever ‘it’ was). You decide to say nothing, swipe right and jump straight back on the horse.
Let it eat you up inside and then decide to get your own back. This is a common method whereby the ghostee becomes the ghoster in an attempt to gain back power in the dating scene. Although brutal and slightly hypocritical, it can produce the following results, although usually only short term: feelings of power and strength, a sense of happiness due to your ‘no-shits-given’ attitude.
Call him out loud and clear girl! Call him, text him (any medium is fine – Whatsapp, Facebook, Insta, Tinder). Tell him he’s a douche. An immature douche with a bleak future. He’s not responding? Go gorilla and turn up at his house. He probably still lives with his Mum anyway so let’s see what she has to say.
Perhaps you’re reading this and you’re actually the ghoster, not the ghostee. You’re a bit of a dick, but we don’t care, we still want your point of view! Leave a comment below. Where do you stand on ghosting?